…if we describe revenge, greed, pride, fear, and righteousness as the villains–and people as the hope–we will come together to create possibility. ~from The Art of Possibility, by Rosamund Stone Zander & Benjamin Zander
Just yesterday, I found myself telling a story with another person as villain. I SO know better than to do that! I know that it makes me feel mean and small, that it has potential for hurting others and creating ill will.
How easy it is to judge, to condemn the behavior of others, to set ourselves up as right and righteous. How destructive, how counter-productive this is, when we have the capacity to enter the realm of possibility instead. In The Art of Possibility, the Zanders eloquently state the case for moving toward a WE story, for focusing on what is best for all of us.
I am so grateful to Maureen Ryan Griffin for reminding me about this book. She first mentioned it when I was a student in her writing workshop at the John C. Campbell Folk School, where she told us about one of the practices from the book. Here is the practice: When we are trying something new and not completely succeeding, we are to throw our hands into the air and say “How fascinating!” Guaranteed to help us take ourselves less seriously.
“It’s all invented,” say the authors. This is the second book I have read in the past few weeks that makes this point.* I have come to believe it. Here is the practice offered in The Art of Possibility to help us create a new framework.
What assumption am I making,
That I’m not aware I’m making,
That gives me what I see?
What might I now invent,
That I haven’t yet invented,
That would give me other choices?
May I realize the power I have to create my life orientation, to choose to look toward possibility rather than dysfunction, and (importantly for me) to contribute by practicing my gifts. May I abolish the notion of failure, throw up my hands and shout “How fascinating!” rather than measuring myself against some standard of perfection.
Are you the creative director of your life? How does the story you have created prevent you from opening to other possibilities? What would expand your choices?
*the other book is The Path of Least Resistance: Learning to Be the Creative Force in Your Own Life, by Robert Fritz