Joy and Fear of Loss

It frightens me—the awful truth—of how sweet life can be. ~Bob Dylan

How often I find a particularly joyful moment followed by deep sorrow at the knowledge of loss.  Shakespeare said, “Ruin hath taught me thus to ruminate– / That Time will come and take my Love away: / –This thought is as a death, which cannot choose / But weep to have that which it fears to lose.” The antidote may be mindfulness, as well as a deep understanding of impermanence. The Buddhists say we are part of a flow, that our suffering springs from our illusion of separateness. Thus, there is no “my Love” that can be taken away.  There is no “having” or “loss.”  No subject/object. Only awareness and present moment.

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One Response to Joy and Fear of Loss

  1. Loss

    To live in this world
    you must be able
    to do three things:
    to love what is mortal;
    to hold it
    against your bones knowing
    your own life depends on it;
    and, when the time comes to let it go,
    to let it go.
    ~Mary Oliver, from “In Blackwater Woods&#82…

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