In love, we disappear. We stop the world, we stop being two selves, and become an activity, an open field of sensitivity…The experience of love is as close as most of us get, after childhood’s end, to feeling that we are not bound by our skin, that the circumference of self can be moved or penetrated or dissolved in union with another…The word “desire” comes from de-sidere, “away from your star.” It means elongation from the source and the concomitant, powerful magnetic pull to get back to the source.  ~Stephen Nachmanovitch, Free Play (pp. 168, 167, 165)

Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength; while loving someone deeply gives you courage.  ~Lao Tzu

What an interesting Lao Tzu quote! I think of courage as coming before (being required for) loving, though I don’t doubt that loving strengthens our courage muscles. Those of us who know what it means to be deeply loved are (I believe) immensely fortunate and stronger from it.

What grace love is. It’s not about you, or me, or even us, but about something beyond, what Nachmanovitch calls an activity, what some call creativity or encounter.

I like the image of the magnetic pull to return to one’s star, but I suppose the Buddhists would say we have never been separate from it, that we have only thought ourselves separate.

What is love to you?


3 Responses to Love

  1. donna says:

    To me love is the acceptance of someone else or something else or even yourself that is alive in the moment without any desire to change it. Although you might still know that your love can create a path so that person or thing or you might come to better know themselves, and the desire to help them do so.

    But that is the way my love works. Your mileage may vary.

  2. midlifecrisisqueen says:

    Hey there!

    I just found your blog site and I like it! As you can see from my blog, I’m a quotes collector too. But my favorite quote on love is still by Marge Piercy in her fantastic book The Moon is Always Female: “Love is plunging through darkness towards a place that may exist.”

    Keep up the good work!

  3. quotesqueen says:

    Thanks for the Piercy quote!

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